Court
Court is not a good solution.
Firstly, without a mother's cooperation, family court can have little effect (which is why organsisations like Fathers For Justice exist). Legaaally there is Parental Responsibility which gives both parents a more or less equal standing in theory if not in practise. On dads-uk.co.uk there are countless real life stories of fathers being pushed out of their children's lives even after going through court. I know of a father who split up from his wife and the mother refused him access to theior two children. He went to family court and was awarded visitation in a contact centre. His visits were steadily increased to a few hours each week when the mother decided to block his access once again (eg. she wouldn't be at home when he calls for the kids, says they're sick etc.) and so he had to go back to court - and the cycle started all over again at an hour a week. This type of scenario isn't uncommon.
If the thought of her own daughter growing up not knowing her father isn't enough for a mother then forcing her to comply through court won't really change anything in terms of attitude. It might let me see my daughter, but there would always be some problem and alomst certainly the manipulation and control, bad feelings, arguing, and inevitably the silly games as there were in the first few months. It's not good for anyone, least of all Nadia.
And even if I went ahead with court, it is a Polish child and mother living in the UK - the mother could return to Poland anytime (she already fled Poland with Nadia last year and given how things have been, I think she's capable of just about anything).
The mother says she believes that children can be psychologically harmed if they spend time with their father. I don't see how anyone can believe that and my guess is her real reasons are: punishing me, hoping we can be still be together (I doubt she still wants that but it was probably a reason before); fears that I don't share her beliefs; or plain over-possessiveness with Nadia).
I know this web site might make her angry but I've no option. I've tried talking, emailing, sent information, links to web sites, child experts - and a post I made on a forum asking for advice. I've also asked her to attend mediation with me. Her response is always final and non negotiable.
It's not a contest about who's right or wrong - I only want what I believe is best for my daughter and I can't afford to tip toe around the mother because what she's doing is more likely to be harmful to our child than her spending time with me.
http://www.childreninwales.
Maybe she might even see how much I love Nadia and realise I would be good father for her!
Incidentally, family court will almost always grant a father visitation to his children unless in some extreme situation - both Polish and UK courts. I told the mother this and just said they're wrong.